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"If y'all was capable of getting it, I wouldn't mind explaining. If y'all was capable of getting it, it wouldn't need explaining."

Sometimes I feel like communication freezes the world in place. Not because we aren't communicating, but because we aren't doing so effectively. If it's raining outside, & I want you to know, you don't need to hear from me "The news said chances of precipitation are 80%. Seeing as how it's raining rn I guess they were right." I'll save you & me some energy (me the energy of speaking & you the energy of listening) by telling you plainly "Its raining outside." & letting you do with that information what you choose. I feel like we oftentimes expect the information we give ppl to be more meaningful to their lives than it was meant to be. I believe we all have narcissistic tendencies at times (some of us more than others). Those tendencies (when triggered at the wrong times) cause miscommunication & conflict based off that miscommunication. Because I tell you it's raining doesn't mean you have to get an umbrella. It doesn't mean you have to say thank you or be appreciative that I told you. It doesn't mean that you have to acknowledge my existence. Me giving you information is my choice. You receiving or not receiving is your choice. Everything you do in your life is a choice. Make your choices and allow other people the opportunity and privilege of living their life with theirs. That means communicate and allow the people who do care, the opportunity and privilege of doing so. Don't expect it to make the people (you want to) who aren't listening miraculously start to do so. And don't think that "BEING/DOING" more, will cause that miracle to come forth either. When we choose to communicate, no one is obligated to receive it, or react to it. That doesn't mean stop communicating. That means communicate & allow the ppl who choose to care to do so. Don't expect ppl who aren't listening to you miraculously start. And don't think that "Being/Doing More" will either. There are ppl out there listening to ppl who are communicating. They may not be ppl you know, but they are ppl you may be interested in getting to know. They may not be the ppl you want, but they are the ppl who are here. Say the things that are important to you, in a place where ppl choose to listen.

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." – George Bernard Shaw

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Ginger Graves
Ginger Graves
Jun 14, 2022

What is the best way to share your experiences and outcomes with someone going through a similar circumstance as a survivor and not as a no it all?

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Me personally, I don't think there's a "Best Way" to share your experiences and outcomes with someone Growing Through a similar circumstance as a survivor. I believe (and I could be wrong) that the best way to share is to just do so in an honest and vulnerable way with the intentions being to be a benefit to and uplifting someone. If you feel (even slightly) that your intentions might be tainted with "shade" or any other ulterior motive, that you're conscious of or even semi so, then you probably shouldn't share. Even with the best of intentions there will still be misunderstandings and miscommunication. Communicating is extremely difficult. There's no single way to effectively communicate. It is absolutely impossible…

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